There's something about this that resonates with me :)

Derrick Jensen writing in The Culture of Make-Believe:

[...] I was listening to a military spokesperson outlining reasons gays should not be allowed into the military. His main reason was that it would destroy the chain of command. "Can you imagine what would happen," he asked, obviously rhetorically, "if a private had sex with a captain? The captain would no longer have any authority." It was clear from the context his main point was not intimacy, but rather penetration. If the inferior penetrated the superior, the superior would no longer be such.

I suddenly understood what a lot of feminists have been saying  for many years, that within our system, sexuality is an act of power, with a fucker, and a fucked. And in a culture where men consider themselves superior to women, men fucking women is a sign that all is well with the world. Feminist author Catharine MacKinnon put this as succinctly as possible: "Man fucks woman, subject verb object."

Any deviation from that behavior - and homosexuality is certainly not the only way to deviate - chips away at the illusions that it's natural for men to rule women and that it's also natural to manifest this rule through sex (as opposed to "using" sex for pleasure and communication, if I may venture a wild and crazy idea). Recognizing that our most intimate relationships need not be based on power points toward an even more dangerous possibility, that all relationships can have as their basis pleasure and communication: that they can consist of communion.

I'm not sure that we can remove power completely from relationships, but I do believe in recognizing its existence, understanding the dynamics it engenders, and consciously acknowledging the role it plays.